7 Things in Your Home That Might Be Secretly Stressing You Out, According to Psychologists
You might not even have a clue they’re causing stress.
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Our homes are meant to be a respite: A place where you walk through the door and your shoulders relax, your breathing eases, and you feel like you’re in a cozy bubble protected from all the world’s noise. Try as we might, though, some things can inadvertently stress us out and create a sort of uneasiness as we move about.
“The environment we live in affects our mood daily. If there’s clutter, loud noises, or items that make you feel stressed when you look at them or think about them, it can increase your stress levels and make relaxing more difficult,” explains Patricia Dixon, PsyD, licensed clinical psychologist and author in Tampa Bay, Fla.
We spoke with Dixon and licensed therapist Nick Desisto, LPC, to help identify some of the biggest stress-inducing culprits in our homes.
Work-Related Items in Relaxation ZonesIt may seem negligible, but if your laptop, backpack, schoolwork, or anything relating to work is sitting right next to your bed or on the couch, your brain subconsciously thinks about your to-do’s and any stress related to those non-home environments.
“Those spaces stop feeling like places to relax and start feeling tied to stress and responsibility, even when you’re not actively working,” Desisto says. “Even a small boundary helps. Put your work stuff in a bag, a drawer, or just out of sight at night. You’re basically helping your brain separate ‘I’m on’ from ‘I’m off,’ which a lot of people are missing right now.”
Mail and PaperworkThere’s no getting around it: Piles of mail and documents will always feel like you’ve got some unfinished business. They hint at bills, deadlines, and decisions you’ve still got on your plate, which lead to a constant undercurrent of stress.
“Create a simple, regular routine. Set aside a specific time each week (or month) to sort, respond, and file. Use labeled bins or folders for immediate actions—like bill payments, urgent letters, reference documents—and a dedicated inbox for incoming items,” Dixon suggests.
Basically, these documents don’t have to be “in sight” to get done. Having a scheduled window can ease anxiety and keep paperwork organized and under control.
Dinging Digital DevicesThe stress we experience from digital devices is probably grossly misunderstood. But one thing we do know is that notifications, pings, and constant dinging can really take you out of the moment.
“A lot of people don’t realize how much their phone is keeping them on edge. Notifications, messages, apps lighting up—it keeps your brain in this constant alert mode. There’s never really a full break,” Desisto explains. “Set some boundaries with it, especially at night.”
He says that even something simple—like putting your phone on ‘Do Not Disturb’ or charging it away from your bed—can help your body actually wind down instead of staying half-alert.
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The ‘Unseen’ UncleanYou may be great at keeping large surfaces cleared and have an established routine to tackle deep cleaning to-do’s, but a common mistake is forgetting about all the little, out-of-sight spots that require a regular once-over.
These are areas that you forget about, but still need to be cleaned: your walls, the baseboards, and door handles, for example. It also includes around appliances, behind the couch, and under the bed. Dust, grime, and dirt accumulate here, and whether you actually see it or not, your brain remains subtly aware that the gunk is stacking up.
Harsh Overhead LightingIf you haven’t adopted the rule of layered lighting, this is your sign to go for it. Sure, a bright overhead light may feel functional, but if it’s the only source you’ve got in your home, it can start to weigh on you. This harsh light keeps your brain in alert mode, making it harder to wind down.
The designer rule of thumb is to have three layers of lighting: overhead lights for general illumination, task lighting for focused activities such as reading or cooking, and soft, ambient lighting (a la table lamps or sconces) that create a more relaxed vibe.
Piles of StuffAny professional organizer will tell you that keeping a tidy home comes down to efficient organizational systems that ensure every item has a home. Also, keeping a “put it away” mindset versus a “set it down” approach is key. All that said, a huge source of stress in the house is piles of stuff where they shouldn’t be. Think haphazard clothes in the bedroom corner chair, desks overrun with paper, and a kitchen sink filled with dirty dishes.
“Even if someone says it doesn’t bother them, it usually does on some level. It can make your brain feel like there’s always something to do or something you’re behind on, which keeps you from fully relaxing,” Desisto says. “Don’t try to overhaul everything. That’s where people get stuck. Just start small—clearing one surface, like your nightstand or desk, can actually make a noticeable difference.”
Bedside ClutterYour bedroom is a place for rest, so anything that works against the cause must be addressed pronto. One of the biggest culprits of stress is a cluttered nightstand, which can house everything from last week’s water cup to a stack of books you intend to read to random papers and wrappers.
Take time to clear this space and fill it only with items that bring peace or benefit your sleep. And in the same vein as “unseen” unclean, tackle any drawers or lower compartments of the nightstand, too. Even knowing it’s filled with stuff can low-key stress you out.
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